"You're so stupid/dumb.": Using derogatory language can harm a child's self-esteem and confidence. Instead, focus on constructive criticism and encourage effort and improvement.
"I wish you were more like [someone else].": Comparing children to others can create feelings of inadequacy and resentment. Instead, celebrate your child's unique strengths and encourage them to embrace their individuality.
"You always/never...": Using absolutes can be demoralizing and unrealistic. Instead, address specific behaviors and focus on finding solutions together.
"You're too sensitive.": Dismissing a child's feelings can invalidate their emotions and discourage open communication. Instead, listen attentively and validate their feelings, even if you don't agree with them.
"I'm disappointed in you.": Expressing disappointment without providing constructive feedback can leave children feeling dejected and discouraged. Instead, offer guidance and support to help them learn from their mistakes.
"Stop crying/whining.": Suppressing emotions can teach children that their feelings are not valid or worthy of acknowledgment. Instead, help them understand and express their emotions in a healthy way.
"You're such a failure.": Labeling children in this way can have long-lasting negative effects on their self-esteem and motivation. Instead, emphasize effort, resilience, and the importance of learning from setbacks.
"I don't have time for you right now.": Brushing off a child's attempts to connect can make them feel unimportant and rejected. Instead, make an effort to prioritize quality time together and show them that you value their presence.
"You're making me angry/upset.": Blaming a child for your own emotions can create feelings of guilt and responsibility. Instead, take responsibility for your feelings and model healthy ways of managing emotions.
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